Part two of the podcast with Amy Roloff is now available. You might remember a couple of weeks ago there was a podcast on another site. This is the last half of the podcast. Let's be honest, this is what people really wanted to discuss.
I wanted to quickly recap the interview for those that don't have time to listen to the entire interview or people who can't get the podcast working, but there was one major topic that over-shadowed the interview.
The first clip she discusses the filming schedule. They film 5 days a week. Most of the filming is done on weekends in the summer. Amy says they haven't done as much filming as usual because they did so much during the summer. They also get the Thanksgiving week off and 3 week to a month break during Christmas. Traditionally, they have the entire month of April off.
The other interesting item is that Amy alludes to Jeremy being on television outside of their show in the future. On her website, Amy also makes a comment about Jeremy that "You might be seeing more of him". When she is talking about the messy house she says:
"If you ever get to see Jeremy in TV outside of our show or later in life, he will probably have the most spotless house ever because his closet, all his shirts are lined up on hangers..." (hmm...is she blaming the state of the twins room all on Zach? Their new room after the remodel was looking very cluttered...what color was that leather couch again if you can see it from underneath the pile of clothes...just saying! ;-)
The second segment and part of the third segment is what people are really interested in. For the first time, Amy finally discusses the National Enquirer article. If you're new to the site, you can check the archives on here to find the details - the quick version is Jeremy made racial and homophobic comments on the internet talking to his friends (and his friends made them to him as well), including using the N word several times, the gay slur "f*gg*t, Jeremy called Mexico the place where the beaners live, and endless mocking of gay people. His friends also made derogatory comments/jokes about deaf kids, Down Syndrome, Jewish people, Asian people, and Muslims.
Jeremy's comments went on for a span of over 3 years, when Jeremy was 15 - 17, until Jeremy (as per Jeremy himself) stopped using the internet to communicate with his friends. Jeremy's friends, including best friend Jacob Mueller, were still making the same type of racial and homophobic slurs as recently as May 2008, a couple of weeks before the Roloffs took him on their summer vacation. The National Enquirer in their September 2008 issue published an article about Jeremy called "A Big Bigot in the Land of the Little People".
Of course in this interview, Amy doesn't name it or get into specifics, but she states there was "an incident". Later in the third segment, she also seems to be referring to it.
"One of the hardest things about being in the media, how we are in the media, because this is about our personal life. Sure, occasionally things won't be said right, sometimes my kids won't say the right thing. Sometimes when they're having conversations with their friends and the camera picks it up. Or some of their friends make an off beat comment and it goes on the internet and it gets all blown out of proportion.
I think the thing that probably hurts the most for me is when people will criticize us to the point that we're not good parents or we're hypocrites.
You have to remember you're taking one moment and over analyzing and making a huge judgment on my life and I think it is unfair because you have the opportunity to over analyze it and criticize it, but often I don't know who these people are, I don't know anything about their life, until you can look in the mirror and in your own closet, don't be so critical that we haven't dealt with it, that we haven't tried to consistently and constantly remind our kids that you know what, maybe some of the things you say are hurtful, you may not think they're hurtful, you may think it's all in fun or just because the other person laughs at it themselves, doesn't mean it won't hurt them inside. But be careful of your words, be careful of your language, not because I'm telling you, but because it's the right thing. Is that how you want to be treated and looked upon.
I mean I know there is an incident that happened, geez, about 3 years ago or 2 years ago, but it made it like it happened now, when my boys are 18 years old. Media and people can twist and turn things around, but you're stuck in a hard spot because you're in a catch 22, because no matter what you say the statement in itself will be over analyzed, over criticized, she didn't cover this topic or things like that.
So I will admit that's probably the toughest part because I don't ask everyone to agree with it in fact I don't ask everyone to like everything I do. One thing that has been over-criticized is the messy house......"
"It's hard as a parent especially when things are said about your children. To me, they don't deserve that kind of raking over the coals from strangers, from people they don't even know, from people that have the opportunity, glimpse into their life.
I never wanted their personality or their reaction or thoughts or how they think to be so guarded because we have tv in our life. When things come up, we may not discuss it on tv, we may not deal with it on tv, in some ways I'm disappointed people think Matt and I wouldn't deal with it at all. We take those opportunities and we've sat down with their friends or Jeremy or Zach or Molly or Jacob. It's not a one time event. I try to do that from day one. It's a matter of consistency, talking with them and approaching them and sometimes even disciplining them, but just because something is done wrong, doesn't always require discipline. If they got it from talking with them and their eyes say 'oh yeah geez, why did I do that, what was I thinking, what was I feeling?'...to me if they understand it and get it at the point, then the next time think about what you're doing. Think about how you're treating your friends. Think about how you talk with your friends about other things, other people.
I didn't want my kids to so self guard them and to be so worried about this happening, but yet we now do have to let them know that unfortunately, the things you do and say, like normal people, but it's totally magnified, people will take it out of context and construe to the point where this wasn't really meant the way they had hoped it turned out to be.... I think there is a lot more (good?) in the tv show than certain things that may have happened because it's like, we're not perfect."
The interviewer goes on to say everybody needs to remember not to judge and tells Amy she has raised wonderful children.
Amy says: "A lot of it has to do with my faith, we have a faith, that's our belief, the Christian faith. I ask the kids, where was your heart? What are you thinking? Where is our head at? What are we thinking about the tv show and what we want to get out. When you look at it and weigh in and talk to the kids about it, you know we're doing a lot more good and where our heart is and what we want to do is what I tell the kids to look at. Not do it out of greed, gain, maliciousness, meanness, sometimes things just happen."
You can listen to all 3 clips here under Part 2.
There is a lot to discuss there! I'll post some of my personal thoughts on Amy's response at a later date, but I look forward to hearing your comments on Amy's first response to "the Jeremy scandal".