Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Amy Roloff Charity Foundation and Matt Roloff insight -- Snub or Support?

All reader comments are welcome (well, within in reason...), but sometimes particular comments generate a lot of attention-- sometimes the information passed along in comments can be very interesting and insightful.

We decided to feature some of the comments that a poster named Jolie made in response to our item about Amy Roloffs 2nd Annual Dinner and Auction Event. You can read the original item and comments here:

http://spiritswander.blogspot.com/2010/08/2nd-annual-amy-roloff-charity-dinner.html

Below are the comments from a reader going by the screen name Jolie -- who stated that she has intimate knowledge of the Roloffs and the dynamics as it relates to Amy's charity foundation and Matt's involvement or lack of involvement, Matt's reasons for his feelings about Shriners and the topic of Matt and Amy pitting the kids against one another. Other reader comments were focusing on the fact that Matt was posting on his Facebook Fan Page about going to the movies with the kids while the Amy Roloff Dinner and Auction event was taking place and people that thought the kids should have been at Amy's event. Some people were interpreting it as Matt snubbing Amy's charity event.

It was generating a lot of response and email talk, so we thought he would highlight it by giving the comments their own item for people that visit the site, but might now always read all the comments. Also included are comments from another poster disputing what was said.

As always, you're encouraged to form your own opinions on the information and views that are presented and decided what you believe to be accurate.

Jolie Said:
August 23, 2010 8:35 PM

"It angers me on how most of the speculation on the Roloff family has been so far off base from what I know of them. I am not going to say that the Roloff family doesn’t fight or argue or even that they aren’t competitive with each other, they do and they are. What I will say is that they are not malice or spiteful against each other. Matt has not pitted the kids against Amy or vice versa.

Matt’s position on the Shriners Hospital isn’t just about his childhood experience, but mostly because of his time as president of LPA learning of the experiences of other little people families who had dealings with Shriners. A little person has unique medical needs and considerations, not every hospital or doctor is equipped to handle those needs or considerations. LPA has a medical advisory board that is familiar with various medical facilities and provide information and resources to little people who need to get the proper care specific to little people issues. There are many doctors and hospitals who specialize in giving excellent care to little people, who have excelled and come highly recommended by LPA, Shriner’s is not one of them. Amy and her Board did make a questionable choice in having the Shriners as a charity partner, but it was not out to spite Matt. I am sure there are regrets, but Amy is a woman of her word and she will pull off a successful event in which the Shriners will be grateful recipients of her hard work and good name.

And the kids didn’t boycott her event, what a silly conclusion. Those kids love their mother and they support her, and they love their dad and they support him. The kids supported Amy and her event as they were asked to. They are there for her in any way she requests. Amy did not require them to be there by her side every moment of the day.

And anybody who knows Matt, knows that when he shows up to any event, his big personality can shift the focus, so out of respect and also by request, he lays low, period.


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Z to the Zee said...
Jolie,

I don't know how well you know the Roloffs, but if you knew them really well and were honest, you would know that the Roloffs are not the happy cozy family portrait you portray.

Matt and Amy do compete with each other for the affection of the kids. Amy doesn't have a great relationship with Jeremy, at least not as close as she would like. This pains Amy greatly because she knows Matt is winning the war for Jeremy. He rarely does anything with Amy that he isn't required to, but he is there for Matt. They do compete for the kids affection.

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Jolie said...


Appearances by Amy Roloff, Jason Kennedy and John English. NOT dinner with the Roloff’s. Everyone here is so caught up with speculating about what Amy asked of her kids at this event. All speculation based on your narrow perceptions of what you think Amy would want. What Amy wants and what you think she should want are not the same. She is very satisfied with her event and she is not disappointed by her children. She does not see her kids as commodities to be auctioned off, even for charity. This was not an event with tickets sold so young ladies could meet Jeremy, or have dinner with Zach. Amy put together an impressive group of wonderful celebrities and fun entertainment. Her children were not part of that package. Keep in mind that Amy is very busy with her charity fundraising all year. This may be a big event, but she is doing many events all the time and the kids are involved, helping her on those when ever and how ever they can. In your eyes this may look like the pinnacle of her year, but for the kids it is not. Like I said, she was not disappointed in her kids and how much they helped her in any way.

Regarding Matt’s involvement in Amy’s charity? Very simple, Amy is her own woman and wants to build something entirely on her own. If you knew Amy, you would know that at the end of the day she does not want there to be room for Matt to be able to stake claim for any of the success of the Amy Roloff Charity Foundation. Matt is a take charge kind of guy, that is just who he is and if Amy let him get too involved she knows that is a slippery slope. He has offered to help many times and except for a few email blasts to his newsletter list, she has declined and asked him to take a step back. She wants to look at her creation and know with certainty that it is totally hers and hers alone. I think she can do that, but if Matt were to be involved there would be that nagging question, not only in her mind, but in the mind of her fans. Matt understands this and honors her requests. He is very proud of her, her charity and what she has been able to do with it.

And as for the comments by Z, I never painted a “cozy family portrait” Amy and Matt have a typical marriage, and by that I mean it has its issues and rough spots. But it also has mutual love and respect. What I did say was that Matt and Amy are not pitting the kids against one another. They do vie for affection and jockey for position, but it is never with the intention of taking away from the other or out of meanness. This is not a “war” and the kids do not have to choose a side. Amy is not disappointed with her relationship with Jeremy. She loves him very much and is very proud of the man he is becoming. Both her boys are growing up and like so many parents when your kids become adults it is hard when you are no longer the center of their world. She knows that her position with her children is solid and unshakable and that it is evolving. She is well loved by her children and so is Matt.

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Z to the Zee said...
Jolie,

I never said, suggested or implied that Amy doesn't love Jeremy or isn't proud of him (Amy would be proud of her kids if they were 35 and still living in their bedrooms with no job). Amy loves her kids. They are her world. That is why she is hurt by her relationship with Jeremy. There is more tension there than most people know about.

When Jeremy isn't happy about something or with someone, his way of dealing with it is to cut them out by ignoring them and not spending time with them. I'm sure you must know how rare it is for Amy to spend time with Jeremy (when he doesn't have to). It is deliberate on Jeremy's behalf and Amy is aware of it and that's why it hurts her because it's not the relationship she has with her other kids.



10 comments:

Laura said...

It sounds like a very mature and intelligent summary of the Roloffs.

The Roloffs aren't perfect, but they aren't the horrible people some make them out to be.

Anonymous said...

Go Jolie! Best post I've read on the internet about the Roloffs. Very logical.

Shadow said...

Except for the fact that anyone could have written these posts. None of them prove any "intimate" knowledge of the Roloff family - while the posts are written with more calm and reasonable opinions than many others that have been posted, they still appear to be no more than opinions and interpretations of Roloff actions and choices. And for the record, I'm not expecting any of the Roloffs to confirm OR deny an association with "Jolie." So there really is no way to "prove" that Jolie has any more "inside" knowledge of the Roloffs than anyone else.

But people will agree with what they want to agree with, and ignore anything else, as always. I, for one, would take Jolie's posts as no more truthful than any other posters', until such time as there is convincing evidence that s/he actually has a close enough friendship with the Roloffs to have an intimate understanding of their motives and actions. And that is unlikely to happen on this or any other forum.

Rap541 said...

"Matt’s position on the Shriners Hospital isn’t just about his childhood experience, but mostly because of his time as president of LPA learning of the experiences of other little people families who had dealings with Shriners. A little person has unique medical needs and considerations, not every hospital or doctor is equipped to handle those needs or considerations. LPA has a medical advisory board that is familiar with various medical facilities and provide information and resources to little people who need to get the proper care specific to little people issues. There are many doctors and hospitals who specialize in giving excellent care to little people, who have excelled and come highly recommended by LPA, Shriner’s is not one of them."

Interesting... made more interesting when I go to the LPA website and find this in the medical advisory board.

William A. Horton, M.D.
Director, Research Center
Shriners Hospital for Children
Professor of Molecular and Medical Genetics
Oregon Health & Science University
Portland, OR 97239

http://www.lpaonline.org/mc/page.do?sitePageId=84629

Its a minor point - but the LPA does not appear to have an official problem with Shriners Hospitals and they are pretty up front about things they don't like. (limb lengthening for example)

William said...

Spirits, that's why I enjoy reading this blog so much. Anyone is free to say their piece.

I have no doubt the feelings expressed are shared by many people that know the Roloffs. However, I also think you have to keep in mind that a friend is obviously going to put her friends in the best light possible.

I suspect this was a huge issue between Matt and Amy (Amy partnering with Shriners). I don't think it would be a typical issue with most couples.

Z to the Zee said...

People, beware of the spin. What Jolie said sounds similiar to what Matt says about this stuff. Do I really need to to talk about Matt and honesty?

In Jolie's story, all Roloffs smell like roses. Amy is a charity fundraiser guru who is a woman of her word. Matt is a supportive loving husband. The kids spending their time supporting their parents, helping for charity. Jeremy is "becoming a fine young man". Give me a break.

There's nothing normal about Matt and Amy's relationship. People with common sense know that.

If you believe that, you probably believe Jeremy is a sweet kid reading the Bible instead of drinking? The Roloffs know what a joke that is. They laugh their asses off over how stupid fans are to believe their press about being a sweet Christian family.

Btw Shadow, I believe Jolie knows them or works for them. Here's something you probably didn't know. Don't you think it is strange that nobody is allowed to talk about the Roloffs except Matt? Dan got scolded for his interview on this blog a while ago. Why is that? It's because Matt and the producers want to control all information that is filtered to fans. The more people that talk, even with the intention of defending them to prove their loyalty, the more chance there is of someone slipping up. If you have a phoney image, you want to be the only contact to the public.

The reason why friends need to post anonymously is because the Roloffs and the producers try to forbid it. The person I know said they've put some bogus language in the waiver that everybody that appears on the show need to sign. They said it forbids them from mentioning the Roloffs online. It's their way of gaining power. Friends have to sign it or they don't get to hang out.

Gee. Think about it people. Why all the secrecy? If the Roloffs are so honest and wholesome why do they use their power to make it so only Matt controls what people hear? What is there to hide?

Think about it.

Oh and Matt is still weaving the stories about how Jeremy spends his nights at youth group, that is when he's not helping with Amy's charity? LMAO.

You know what would make a good real reality show? Tape a microphone and a webcam to one of Jeremy's friends for a 24 hour period. Man, people would be in for a shock. And that's the truth. Then you would understand why Jeremy, Zach and their friends laugh their butts off over how dumb fans are to believe the image.

Shadow said...

I don't think it's strange that nobody is allowed to talk about the Roloffs. It was pretty clear from the very start that Matt has a controlling, manipulative personality. It's not at all surprising that he keeps tight rein over public discussion and presentation of his family. He IS a salesman, with all that the stereotype implies, and he knows the power of brand protection.

I think it's also pretty obvious that Matt is furiously intent on presenting some squeaky-clean image of his family that even he has been forced to admit on occasion is a falsehood (his "non-apology" for Jeremy's language, for example). You're right that the more they try to constrain the family into this mold, the more that leaks out the side, until everything eventually implodes, รก la the Gosselins.

Whether Jolie knows or works for the Roloffs really isn't significant. My only point was that unless this person is willing to reveal him/herself publicly, there is no more validity to these posts than to any others. You can choose to believe what you want about who Jolie is or what the connection to the Roloffs is, but it's all supposition and assumption in the absence of hard fact.

Anonymous said...

Jolie, answer this:

Why are the Roloffs you know so very, very different from the Roloffs we see in the series?

Surely you will admit that the show does not represent, in any sense, the same family you claim to know.

Why is that?

Plastic Surgeon Los Angeles said...

More people like Amy Roloff are needed in the world to help the less fortunate. We need to do more for charity and lake a leaf from her book. Why don't we focus less on Amy and more on the message she is sending?

Anonymous said...

Hitler was against smoking. Perhaps we should focus less on Hitler and more on the message he sent.