A recording of the video will be posted on Amy's Ustream channel this weekend so if you missed it, you can watch it then.
Amy's coffee chat summary for Friday January 7th, 2011
*Amy explains what she did for the holidays. She says she did more shopping than she should have. She had a great New Years Eve with her kids at home.
*Amy isn't big on making New Years resolutions, but with all the changes in her life this year, she thought it would be a good idea.
*One of her goals is to continue getting into better shape. She was walking around the farm when she was out of breath and realized she needed to be in better shape. Amy and Matt talked about it, that was when they were still filming so she got the a personal trainer from Suck It Up fitness.
*Amy wants to continue working on her Charity Foundation. Her goal is to raise one and half more money in 2011 than they did in 2010. She started the ARCF because she wanted to help the DAAA. Goals can be daunting, but Amy thinks people should go for their goals. There is no such thing as failure.
*A photographer, Mitch Ward, was one of Amy's guests. He has taken some of the pictures that are on Amy's website. They're going to have a calendar giveaway with shots that Mitch has taken around the Helvetia area. Amy mentioned that her son gave her a calendar with pictures for Christmas. A calendar is a big communication tool in the Roloff home.
*Mitch Ward said Jeremy is a fine photographer. Jeremy is very creative according to Amy. She likes to think that Jeremy got his love of photography and might have learned something from her because she has always loved taking pictures. Mitch said he exchanges tips with Jeremy online. Amy explained that because Jeremy is young he has a way of getting on the computer and finding out things.
*Amy always thought the show should have done an episode where they give Jeremy the camera and then give Zach a camera so people could see things from their perspectives.
*Her goal for 2011 is to raise more money for ARCF. They want to change kids lives in the age range of 10 - 18.
*Another goal is her cook book. The book will be called "Short and Simple". It will be all the meals she cooks for her kids and things that viewers saw her cook in the episodes, like the much discussed enchiladas. The process is taking longer than she thought. She likes to be very hands on and sometimes she gets distracted. It's a long process.
*Other goals are her speaking engagements, she wants to focus on women's groups and colleges/universities.
*Did any of the kids friends not want to be filmed and were their parents that were against it? She said there was some of that when the show began, but as it went on everyone became more comfortable with the show. But there was some that didn't want to be on the show so they weren't filmed. Amy is very appreciative towards the parents of her kids' friends for allowing them to come over because maintaining those friends really helped her kids get through the whole experience.
*What advice would she give people considering doing a reality show? She was actually asked by a producer to speak to a family that was going to do a reality show. Amy's advice was make sure everyone is involved in the process. Communication is the key. Discuss why they are doing it? Are they doing it for the money? Are they out of work and need the money? Make sure everyone knows why they are doing it. Are they doing it for a purpose or to raise awareness for something?
*What does she try to instill in her kids? Amy answered to be good to other people. To appreciate other people. With Jeremy and Zach, she didn't want Zach to be a burden to Jeremy, she also didn't want Zach to be envious of Jeremy. She's thrilled that they are fine young men and completely their own people. Appreciate people for people. Some people will make choices you don't like, but it doesn't make them bad. Amy tried to build her kid's character. To teach them to have empathy and compassion for other people, help other people pick themselves up when they are down. She also tried to teach them about responsibility and consequences. Those are the things Amy cared about, like fans of the show know, she didn't care if they always picked up after themselves. When they remodeled the house, she did ask the kids to keep the public areas clean, but their rooms are their space.
*On that topic, someone asked why the Roloff boys rooms are so messy? Amy agreed they are a disaster. She told a story about Jacob taking a shower, he came down to her bathroom saying there were no towels because they had thrown all the towels in a basket and there were no clean towels. She told him there is a washer and dryer up there and to wash some. So Amy said she has no idea why they don't clean their rooms -- she is getting after them more lately, but bedrooms are their private area.
*Someone said they helped support Amy's charity event and was upset they didn't receive a 'Thank you'. Amy apologized. They asked for the information so they could send a thank you.
*Do they still keep the public areas of the house clean without the cameras? Amy explained that Matt still has a housekeeper come in once a week. Matt and Amy do a lot of running around and the kids are busy with school. The kitchen is the worst area.
*Amy was asked if the kids are part of her charity foundation. Basically...not really. It's Amy's foundation. She encouraged it, but she wanted the kids involvement to come for their own hearts. Zach and Jeremy helped her out with her first charity event -- the Timbers were involved. Jeremy and Zach showed up very briefly at her second charity event. So her kids aren't a huge part of her Charity, they are finding out what's important to them.
*A question about Rocky's health. Rocky is Rocky. He's older but doing okay. He barked once, they were all shocked.
*Amy was asked what Jeremy thought of Matt wanting him to take Rocky out to the barn and shoot him. Amy answered that Matt sometimes like to say things to see what kind of reaction they get. But Jeremy and Matt say stuff like that to each other, they go back and forth with each other and stuff like that. It's a guy thing. However, Amy won't let them shoot Rocky on her watch.
*Will Amy have the family on her coffee chats? Actually, Amy had asked or "encouraged" Jeremy and Zach to stop today. They don't really have school on Fridays. Jeremy might have one class later in the day and Zach doesn't work until later. So Amy had hoped they would come by today...but here she is having her coffee chat now and they didn't show up so....
Molly and Jacob are in school of course.
Matt does his own thing on Facebook and with his YouTube videos for Facebook, but Amy likes the interaction with people on her coffee chats.
*The Haiti experienced touched Amy's heart. She wants to continue to help Haiti. Haiti is the location they want to focus on with their international efforts.
*Amy was inspired by a woman that wrote her saying she tries to help people in ways such as when she sees someone alone, she will ask them how they're doing and just be friendly and show that they care or she'll write notes to people that need encouragement. Amy said we all need to work on doing more of that.
*She was told that people are confused that she keeps saying she's an "Empty Nester" because Jacob is 13. Amy said she's not an Empty Nester yet. It's the psychology of it. She is preparing herself. Even though Jeremy and Zach are still living at home, they are becoming more distant. She is confident that Jeremy and Zach will leave this next year and Molly will leave the year after so that's what Amy means when she talks about being an Empty Nester, but yes, she still has Jacob, she's just preparing herself for the big changes that are coming soon.
*Jacob's 14th birthday is January 17th. It's Martin Luther King Day. She's not absolutely sure what they'll do for his birthday yet. He'll have friends over, maybe they'll go to the beach or skiing. Jacob likes skiing. Amy said perhaps Jeremy will come and they'll go skiing with Jacob.
*Amy was asked if her relationship with Molly was different than it is with the boys. Amy said very recently Molly had a moment. Amy was shocked and didn't know how to react because she never sees that side of Molly. She was glad Molly was sitting down when she let go and Amy was glad that she was there to hug Molly. Molly is at that age where she has a lot of emotions.
*Amy was asked about what Matt said in an interview about the fan incident with Jacob at an amusement park or if that was Matt exaggerating? Amy said it did happen. It was in California several years ago. They didn't know how to interact with fans when they were filming. She said the family got kind of spread apart. Fans caught Jeremy and Zach off guard. Jeremy and Zach didn't want to give an autograph because they didn't feel they should have to when they were there filming. These fans got over-zealous and were offended that Jeremy and Zach wouldn't talk to them or give them an autograph and it got physical; the fan pushed their assistant producer at the time. It really affected Jeremy and Zach. But over time they got better with it and the crew got better with it.
*Amy ended with a few inspirational quotes "Winston Churchill" Success is not failure. Failure is not fatal. The courage to continue is what counts. " and another quote about being kind to others and treating others how you want to be treated.