Last Thursday, Amy Roloff was a guest on Living The Dream Mom live radio show with Nina Frye.
You can listen to it on their site; it's located on the sidebar at the right.
Here is our summary of the interview:
*Amy states that she's real, she doesn't do BS, LPBW was a real show and unscripted.
*Life is just as crazy. Definitely calmer, seems to be slowing down. Biggest change is not as many people, crew, producers etc. Speaking engagements, hopefully writing a book.
*Why did it end? People keep asking. Nothing like this lasts forever. Amy thinks it was mutual. As a family they thought this was a good place to end. The boys were trying to figure out what to do, where to go and if they were tied to the family doing the show and wanting to move on and things like that.
*Was the show scripted at all? It's the hard thing for people to understand about tv, we don't live in a society that wants beaver cleaver. They take more dicier things and put it altogether and make it seem worse than it was. That's what made the show real, the good the bad and the ugly. But it is real and it is life.
*Regret the show? Don't regret it. Could we have done things better? You bet. Don't regret the show for the main reason why we did it. Maybe towards the end it didn't seem like that's why we did it, but it's a good place to keep going back to -- and that's educate and advocate for those with disabilities or those that look different and especially for Little People.
*Portrayed on TV as on the verge of divorce? Amy states "I think we will be fine." Are we going through rough spots like a lot of married people? You bet. We have had some issues and things we continue to work out, but we keep figuring it out. We are beginning to enter that empty nester stage. Other people are going through similar things.
*Jeremy and Zach are already in college. Amy wasn't quite as definite about it as she sounded on her Facebook Fan Page or in her Coffee Chat. This time she used words like "probably", "if all goes well".
Amy said she thinks "Jeremy will probably transfer to a college in the fall if all goes well." Amy thinks with the whole TV thing that it's been hard for them to make that decision, they've lived here and things have been pretty kosher for them just living their life.
*Molly is a junior, so she is going to start to applying to colleges in the fall.
*The twins will be 21 in May. People often wonder if they're behind. No, it's because she held them back in pre-school.
*Jacob is the typical teenager. She is definitely trying to get a handle on him. Amy says she tells the other three kids that they didn't do their job because they didn't prepare her for Jacob. But Jacob is a good boy, he's just a teenager.
*How did the kids feel when the show ended, did they miss being filmed? "No, I think they were all okay wiht it too. Jacob and Molly were kind of the kids that did it because that's what Mom and Dad said we're doing kind of thing. Jeremy and Zach understood it a little more and understood what they had to do, that it was a job and the dynamics with their friends -- I'm just so grateful to the parents of their friends were willing and let their kids be on camera. Otherwise their friendships wouldn't have happened and the show wouldn't have lasted as long because I wouldn't have wanted that for my kids if they couldn't have had their friends and did the things they wanted to do. We don't miss being on camera, with that many people around you and in your home, the consistency of the crew, overall, we had the same producers for the last 3 almost 4 years and a group of camera and sound people that were the same. That helped he longevity of the show.
*What are your thoughts on reality TV with little kids? "I think reality TV with little kids is fine as long as parents don't get into this mode where we have to do the show -- the income. It's probably more money than they've ever made. If there's no other thing they do or that they need their kids around to do it, I don't always think that's a good thing.
*You don't miss that stardom feeling of being on camera do you? No, the thing I would or will miss is that I've had a lot of great opportunities and met great people, through speaking engagements and started my own charity foundation. Wouldn't have been able to do all that without TV. Obviously with media, once you're out of the media, it's on to the next one.
*Cookbook has been in the works for the last two or three years, but with the show it took longer. It's in the beginning stages, she has sent out proposals, perhaps it will be out in the fall.
*They talked about her coffee chat. Amy said she loves to talk. She wants to use her celebrity for some good.
*A caller wanted Amy to speak at their conference in Orlando. Amy told her to email. Amy said people think when you're on television that you have a whole entourage of people, they might have one or two, but that's it. Amy said its pretty much me, myself and I. She has a great board for her charity. For her coffee chat, she has 2 people, her tech guy Rich and her VP Lisa. She loves travelling and speaking and would love to do that.
*Amy might have a new updated website in the next few weeks.
That was the end of the interview with Amy.
One of the interesting things about this particular interview was not just the interview with Amy, but the topic and the guest that followed Amy -- one of the people that run the popular Gosselin Blog -- "Gosselins Without Pity".
It was an interesting sequence of guests considering that is the big Gosselin blog and their issues with Kate and the Gosselin show.
It was interesting for me to listen to it since we are basically the only Roloff blog - well, now Matt is promoting his blog or the blog his staff runs, but we are basically the only Roloff blog that isn't run by Matt and his staff.
Some of the things that the Gosselin Without Pity blogger said are the same as Spiritswander. We don't make any money off this either and sometimes people don't realize that things get moderated and comments are rejected on both sides. Sometimes things are just blog bashing insults and sometimes comments submitted are a little too vitriolic towards the Roloffs and those things get rejected as well -- and sometimes people don't understand that.
One thing that I found surprising about the Gosselin blogger guest was that she said their blog wasn't just about Jon and Kate Plus Eight, it was about the larger issue that children shouldn't be on reality shows. So it was surprising to me that when they referred to Amy since she was on minutes earlier, she was so complimentary towards the Roloffs and commended them -- Pointing out that the Roloffs show was about educating for LP awareness and the Roloff kids were older.
Personally, not trying to get into a blog war or anything, but it struck me as just a bit hypocritical, although I realize it would be poor manners to rag on the previous guest on the radio show. However, I just think that if that's really you're big issue -- that the Gosselins are horrible people for putting their kids on a reality show that they made money off of, I think it's a little hypocritical to commend the "other" TLC reality family for the same thing. Not all the factors were the same, but some of it was.
As both Matt and Amy have said, Jacob Roloff has basically had cameras in his life since he was old enough to remember -- 5 years old (as Matt explained once, the original pilots started filming around 2002). The Roloffs used to be quite vocal about their strenuous filming schedule, 6 days a week between 12 and 16 hours a day. Amy just gets done admitting that Molly and Jacob did the show basically because Mom and Dad said that's what they're doing. And Amy described Jacob as Amy and Matt as usually do - very difficult, very challenging, they don't really know how to deal with him, etc. Listeners to Amy's coffee chat heard that 3 weeks ago Amy say that Jacob thinks he hates her. Four weeks ago Molly said Jacob hates her (Molly) at that moment. Hmm..... What could possibly be a factor in his behavior/attitude? So I did find it odd to hear the big Gosselin blog who has made that their stated issue, be so complimentary towards the Roloffs.
In talking to a couple of people about this, our consensus to why people are much harsher towards Kate Gosselin than the Roloffs basically boiled down to different factors, but mainly because the Roloffs, especially on the surface, are so much more likable than Kate. Her personality is so strong that most people can't stand her. While on the show, Matt had his Goofy "Goobly Gook" quirky dad always doing crazy projects personality that people found funny and entertaining and Amy comes across as being too lenient, but ultimately loves her kids and she does have that nice down to earth personality in interviews that make people think "It would be lovely to have lunch with her and have Amy as a friend". It's not really until you really know more about the Roloffs that you could find that they might not be quite as honorable or quite as nice or as real as their first impression image suggested.
Personally my opinion on the subject is a little more passive than some people. While I think there are certainly some signs that it can be damaging for the kids, I also look at it as parents doing what parents always do - making decisions for their kids and sometimes it's not what you would do or you might think it's wrong, but parents do make choices for their kids. I sort of look at it as parents of these sports prodigies, perhaps tennis is a good example. The father of the Williams sisters, Andre Aggassi's father, Martina Hingis' mother, Jennifer Capriati's dad and thousands of others that we never hear of -- who all basically make the decision for their kids to take a normal childhood away in pursuit of becoming the next big thing -- sometimes they are successful, but the case can be made that it's not actually best for the child's well being - but ultimately, it is the parent's choice.